Dear Readers,
"The man who makes no mistakes does not make anything," so said Thedore Roosevelt.
I happened to have an interesting conversation with someone the other day (let me not name him here, apart from saying that he is one of the few mentors I have in Bangalore). According to him, it is essential for us to be kind to ourself and to learn to forgive ourself. Our biggest friend and enemy lies within us.
Why then it is so easy to forgive someone else and move on, and yet be stuck with our own mistakes, howesoever small, committed years ago?
I personally think the process of forgiving yourself begins with:
1) Taking responsibilty for your own actions;
2) Comprehending that you made this mistake out of choice (which at that point of time seemed the right thing to do) or out of ignorance;
3) Taking remedial actions, if possible and to the extent possible;
4) Moving on, no matter how difficult this may be.
However, expert advice always abounds on the internet, so here are some links - perhaps I shall read these article in-depth some day.
Post on Oprah's blog
Post on Daily Wisdom
Would love to hear your thoughts on this subject.
Cheers,
Lubna
3 comments:
I totally agree with you. You do the best you can and make it right if you mess up and then let it go. Everyone makes mistakes it is part of living in the world. Thank you so much for your kind comments about mom. You are right ICU is a great place to be if you are sick :-).
I have so many faults and failures, but I don't really struggle with forgiving myself. I have a Father who loves me, and He has already forgiven me. With each day that passes, I know more and more what a miracle that is.
I think most self mistakes are automatically forgiven - otherwise you wouldn't come so far in life anyway. Sometimes step (3) is not possible, so they stick longer. But time is a great healer, so you have no choice but move on.
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